More often than not, I see many girls being completely overwhelmed with sorrow because of their recent heartbreak. Although all the signs were there, they never noticed them. All along, they never realized that the relationship is on its way towards a dead end. They repeatedly ignored the fact that at times it takes more than just a desire to continue a relationship. I know it can be pretty tricky to realise or tell someone if their relationship is going to work or not, but there are some fundamental elements with which one can foresee the longevity of a relationship.
Here’s a checklist of actions and habits which indicates that it’s time for you to move on.
1. HE ENVIES YOU
Your success is not his success, and hence, you never find him appreciating you for your accomplishments. He envies your progress and often tries to overshadow things that you do. He might end up saying this frequently, “What’s the big deal in that?”.
2. HE BELITTLES YOU
Your partner has a constant habit of putting you down. He thrives on mocking every action of yours and never take you seriously. The mockery is not a healthy one but rather the one which is humiliating and hurtful.
3. HE DOESN’T TRUST YOU
He has this unhealthy habit of regularly checking your phone. The moment he gets your phone, he heads to every application to check all your conversations and what you have been up to. He keeps buzzing you and tracks you continuously when you are out.
4. HE FEELS HE IS THE KING
You find yourself discussing things with him, but when it comes to him, he is this independent despotic ruler who doesn’t need an opinion. You find him taking all crucial decisions all alone. Most of the time he doesn’t even bother telling you about important steps he’s going to take next.
5. HE NEVER COMPROMISES
For a stable relationship, it is important that you both are willing to compromise on specific issues. But with this fella, you find yourself being the one who’s trying to reach a middle ground from both the sides.
6. HE IS WAY TO POSSESSIVE
Being protective is a good trait and shows a form of affection from your partner. But there is a fine line between being protective and being possessive. If you find him inquiring about everything you do, and he isn’t comfortable with your male friends and colleagues; he is way too possessive, and it will suffocate you.
7. HE IS SHORT-TEMPERED
When he is angry, he loses his mind and doesn’t realise what he is doing or saying to you. You find him saying really mean things to you, and once he’s done with his share of anger, he tries to apologise for the same. You will more often find him flipping even over the pettiest issues.
In the worst scenarios, if you find your partner being physically abusive, don’t waste even a second. Report the incident and call it off right away.
8. HE IS NOT A GOOD LISTENER
Whenever you share something with him, you are hit with monosyllabic words like ‘okay’, ‘hmmm’ and ‘yeah’. Your partner doesn’t engage in healthy conversations, and you end up talking to yourself most of the time.
9. HE DOESN’T GET INVOLVED
When he is around, even small things feel like a mammoth task. Instead of helping you out, he will make things more difficult. Be it helping with the regular chores or making time for a heart to heart; it seems like only you are taking all the efforts to make your relationship work.
10. HE CAN’T BE TRUSTED ANYMORE
Every time you land in some trouble or want someone to be there for you, you know exactly the person you should avoid. You know that he is not the kind of person that can pull you out of troubled times. You just can’t count on him anymore.
11. HE IS NOT SERIOUS ABOUT THE FUTURE
He never happens to focus on his career and doesn’t have any serious career goals as such. This may not be a problem right now, but in the long run, this habit will probably make you both suffer.
With that, I hope now you girls know about the direction your relationship is headed to. Accepting reality can be hard. But there is always a limit whereafter you should act and set things right. Decide and act fast.
DISCLAIMER: This article has been written by the author during Modstyl Internship Program and edited by Team Modstyl. The opinions expressed here are personal and bear no responsibility.