Most of the friendship stories have this in common – how a stranger enters your life and becomes your friend in no time. But, what if this same friend turns back into a stranger? What if she is not the same as she used to be? And what if you even don’t have any idea of what has gone wrong?
Let’s find out how you can reach and make up with your estranged friend.
1. TRY TO FIND THE REASON FOR THE WITHDRAWNNESS
Certainly, there has to be a reason for the aloofness you’ve been facing from your friend’s side. If you don’t know it yet, recollect your thoughts and ponder what could have created the differences. If you can’t find the reason within, talk to her and try to figure out what is the thing that is bothering her.
2. TRADE THE SHOES AND THINK FROM HER POINT OF VIEW
It is possible that she might cut you off and won’t give you any details of her problem when you try to reach out. Don’t be impatient and aggressive if she’s not willing to share her concerns. Trade the shoes and try to think from her point of view as well.
3. KEEP NO MEDIATORS; TALK FACE TO FACE
If your friend is not willing to talk, I won’t recommend you to initiate communication through a third person. Be it common friends or her family members, word of mouth will probably lead to misunderstandings. So, talk to her face to face. Even if she’s not communicating, sit back and give her some time.
4. BE PATIENT; TAKE TIME TO COOL DOWN
Honestly, talking to your estranged friend is not going to be an easy task. She may end up making you more furious. The best thing you can do during this time when you are mad at them is taking a step back to cool down your mind. Don’t say hurtful things to them which you might regret later.
5. DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY
There is a high possibility that your estranged friend will say things which won’t be very pleasing. Therefore, it is essential for you not to take it on your heart and let some of the lousy stuff slide away. You can talk to them later about what they said but don’t try to confront them immediately.
6. AVOID THE BLAME GAME
It becomes essential for you to understand that both of you can be right on your part. Therefore, don’t try to downplay it by blaming things on her. Find a common ground where you both feel comfortable.
Try to be cautious about whatever you say to your estranged friend. Thinking about her point of view is going to help you a lot. Be ready to accept the changes and don’t force anything on her.