When two people fall in love and begin a relationship, they expect their journey to be pleasing and full of happiness. Unfortunately, when the same people choose to call off this journey, it leads to a broken heart which is full of agony. Breaking up with someone you are so accustomed to, can weaken the emotions to the core. And you can become so gloom-ridden that everything may look irreparable.
Let’s discuss how you can get your mind off your ex-beau and get out of the breakup syndrome.
1. INSTIL SELF-LOVE AND STOP BLAMING YOURSELF
Indeed the most cliché yet the most effective way. Most of the people fall in love to feel loved by someone. But what they forget is that one needs to love themselves first. A broken heart often instils the feeling of guilt in an individual. To protect yourself from that remorse, it is essential that you stop blaming yourself and instil self-love instead. You have to stop holding yourself responsible for the whole mess.
2. ESCHEW THE EX; HE DOESN’T DESERVE AN IOTA OF YOUR ATTENTION
After a breakup, it is crucial that you learn to snub your ex. People say that being friends with your ex is a sign of maturity, but I tend to disagree. Healing your broken heart is far more critical. Be it Instagram, Snapchat, WhatsApp, or any other communicating medium, try to cut off all the contact from your ex for at least some time. Throw away or donate all that stuff which in one or the other way reminds you of him (yes, even that adorable teddy bear). This will help you calm your whirlpool of emotions.
3. DON’T GET INTO A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP
There can be nothing as easy as catching a heart on the rebound. So, avoid being an easy target. After a breakup, you may become psychologically incapable of making the right decisions and try to replace your former partner with a new one. Staying single is the best way forward till the time your impulsive emotions have calmed down. Just imagine what if he turns out to be a similar knucklehead. Scary, isn’t it?
4. FOCUS ON YOUR CAREER
A broken heart can take a lousy toll on your career and make you forget what you had yearned for. It’s important to remember who you were and what you wanted to be before you met this specific person. You had an aim; you still have it. Work for it.
5. CULTIVATE A HOBBY AND INVEST YOURSELF
After a breakup, we feel a void inside. I would recommend filling this void with a new hobby. It can be engaging yourself in reading more and more books, practising meditation, yoga, or even kick-boxing (this one will help a lot). We all have talents and interests, which with time, have become dormant. Breakups are the best time to reconnect with them. Rediscover yourself and get back that magic.
6. INTERACT A LOT
When heartbroken, most of the people like to restrict themselves alone in their ivory tower. But this is a toxic way to vent out your emotions since it’ll force you to ponder over what had happened again and again. When you interact with people, it helps your mind to not wander in the wrong places. Believe me, a long phone call with your best friend is no less than a cure at such moments.
It is vital that you talk about something new and casual. Blabbering about your previous relationship, again and again, will iterate the cycle of guilt and sorrow.
7. DON’T GO OVERBOARD WITH DRINKING
‘Drinking till you are drunk’ can be the easiest way to forget the reality or flush-out all the sorrow when you are going through breakups. However, such a solution will be short-lived and will definitely lead you to other undesirable outcomes. So, avoid it completely.
Breakups are hard and can be unbearable. But with a strong mind and great friends, you can get out of this undeserving state. Keep your chin up, smile, and restore your life.